Confessions of a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist

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I was in deep sadness, because of an unhealthy pelvic floor. Past tense because it was all in the past. Have you been searching for ways on how to regain your pelvic health back?

If YOU or you know ANYONE who has been suffering from pelvic floor dysfunction over the years. Please let them read this. Please share this with them.

Because they need to know what I’ve been through. And how my story can HELP them regain their pelvic health back for GOOD.

Here it is…

My pelvic pain issues made me a pelvic floor physiotherapist.

When I was going through my symptoms of a pelvic floor disorder, I remember feeling very bad for myself. I have experienced all the embarrassing signs of pelvic floor dysfunction.

  • Weak pelvic floor
  • Urinary incontinence
  • Fecal incontinence
  • Painful urination or defecation
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Pain in the bladder or groin area

I tried to rationalize why someone like me who is a good person, would get such a terrible disease. I tried to play out every scenario in my head and think of what I could have done over so that I would not feel the pain and discomfort I was feeling. Weird things like my masculinity kept being called into question, I would second guess myself on routine tasks and I would feel less confident around familiar people. I remember crossing the street and thinking to myself “I bet you, he doesn’t have pelvic pain”. This all drove me mad!

Physicians I consulted with thought I was crazy. Every test they examined me for came back NEGATIVE!

Examinations include:

  • Digital rectal exam
  • Urinalysis
  • Blood tests
  • Radiology tests
  • Cystoscopy

They all concluded that it must be psychological, and I started to believe them. The issue with men’s pelvic pain is that it’s not tangible; no one can prove that you are feeling pain, neither can you. At some point in your journey, you start to ask yourself is my anxiety causing this? What came first, my anxiety or the pain? Did I even have anxiety prior to this? The truth is, it’s a double-edged sword if you are constantly trying to make sense of something in your head and you are feeling symptoms of that which you cannot make sense of, that is anxiety by mere definition. 

It wasn’t until I finally met a pelvic physical therapist focused on men’s pelvic health, who could finally validate my symptoms. And help me get out of pain and discomfort that I started to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

It took me 6.5 long years to finally get someone to listen to me and let me know that my symptoms are real and actually very much treatable.

I remember breaking down and crying at how happy I was.

This was now the beginning of a great journey and all my efforts up until this point have not been wasted. So many men have been through hell and back and have lost hope.

There are so many reasons as to why you haven’t gotten relief yet. In many cases I see clients that haven’t been pointed in the right direction for care. Sometimes it’s a urologist, gastroenterologist, colorectal specialist or even a PCP that didn’t know how to screen for pelvic pain. Other times it’s another pelvic floor therapist that didn’t know how to properly treat the cause of the symptoms. Whatever it is, know that it takes time to get help for a diagnosis with little to no research. Only now are we starting to see leading practitioners research this issue.

So don’t lose hope, remind yourself that you are doing everything in your power to get better and there is absolutely nothing you can do beyond that. Control the factors in your life that you can control.  Getting rid of pelvic pain is multifactorial, look at the whole picture.

  • Check your sleep cycle;
  • Water intake
  • Stress level
  • Activity level
  • Check your diet and vices

My only MISSION is to pay it forward.

Be that SOMEONE who listens. That SOMEONE who pays attention to your pain. And we are making it possible by creating a judgment-free community of MEN that support MEN, aiming to be free from pain and live their best life.


If you need someone to talk to, I am here to listen. I am here to tell you that it will GET BETTER.

I am also providing 15-minutes teleconsultation for FREE.

You can also hear my full story on how I overcome PELVIC FLOOR DISORDER here.